I am feeling an urge to fanfic.
do you ever see someone in some quiet intimate moment and suddenly love them so desperately you feel like you’re dying
#like when they pass a mirror and make a face and mess with their hair a little #or when you hear someone singing in their car with the windows rolled up as they drive past you #i don’t know how to express this i just. people are people and it makes me so sad and filled up sometimes
Inspired by every student whose told they can’t be an artist because it doesn’t “make enough money”.
People from middle and upper middle class can say these things and get away. People who don’t know what starting capital is can say these things. People who literally don’t know what its like to have nothing or to live in poverty can say these things.
You can’t follow your dreams without some start up cash from somewhere. And most people don’t have that. Like if money was no object and people could just ~live their dreams~ then why are there children starving in 1st world nations
It’s the social economic version of “just stop being depressed”
Actually reblogging again to add commentary:
"All you need is a house and food and a laptop".
And internet for the laptop. And electricity. And plumbing. And heat. And possibly has for your car. Oh and tabs and emissions if you have a car. Travel if you live away from family/friends or have a job that requires it but doesn’t pay for it.
And, hm, what else?
Medications. Doctor appointments. Replacement for things like canes and wheelchairs if they break and your insurance doesn’t cover it (oh, and if you’re self employed, you have to pay for insurance, too).
Not only is this super classist, it’s ableist as fuck.
YEAH. JUST. OPEN A FUCKING YARN SHOP. JUST DO IT.
JUST OPEN A YARN SHOP. JUST. WILL IT INTO EXISTENCE.
this fucking bullshit, who made this? good god.
Money may not buy happiness but you know what as a broke miserable black male in America, I can tell you honestly that I’d rather be rich and miserable than broke and miserable at least with money I can buy things to drown the misery if only for a little while
i’d rather cook for a living but law school will pay off more in the end so that’s what i’m gonna do
this post is for the birds & rich people. happiness don’t pay my bills or offer economic security.
Okay, I see what you guys are saying. But I believe that you guys are missing the point. It’s obvious you have to make money to spend money or vise versa. Not to be a corn ball here but, “when there’s a will there’s a way”. You want that yarn shop? Go to school, work in in other yarn stores take notes, plan and save money. Or do whatever you gotta do, and get your self that damn yarn shop! No one said it’s going to be easy. You may have to work in jobs that you’ll hate, but balance, guys. Work that job and build up that skill on yarns and go do shit.
Believe that you can do it then go DO IT. You don’t know if you try. But let’s say you do fail…. TRY AGAIN, change it up. Do not doubt yourself, don’t settle. You got this. Sure financial security it important but so is your happiness. Go live that joyful life.
You need to stop.
You are young and optimistic and that’s awesome.
But there’s a huge problem with the ‘YOU CAN DO IT IF YOU JUST BELIEVE!’ rhetoric. And that’s that it gives people a pass for not helping and puts the blame for not being able to overcome hardships on the people who can’t.
When a person with the privilege to follow their dreams says ‘I did it and so can you!’ they absolve themselves from having to think about and address the reasons that someone else doesn’t have that capacity.
Will is not enough to fix massive imbalances of power.
Look at what you’ve said:
"Go to school"
You realize that that requires both startup capital AND is likely to entail debt, right?
"work in in other yarn stores take notes"
If yarn stores are available to work in. Also, moving beyond the yarn store analogy, this is basically an excuse to pay people in experience, which does not lead to credentialing. This ignores the reality of gatekeeping.
"plan and save money"
Can you wrap your head around the concept of living with less income than you need to survive, unable to save because you’re going deeper and deeper into debt just to meet the basic needs of life for yourself/family? Because that’s a reality for many people.
'You don’t know if you try. But let’s say you do fail…. TRY AGAIN'
Do you comprehend what critical failure means?
Let’s say you somehow get a bank loan and try to open and operate a small business. You went into super debt for this. You banked everything on it. You don’t have a safety net. You don’t have a wealthy family to borrow from or people you can stay with. You have dived into your dream because others said you could and you should and nothing else would ever make you happy.
And your business goes bankrupt.
Your home is foreclosed upon.
You’re in a massive amount of debt and you’re sleeping on friends’ couches.
Do you think the bank is going to give you another loan to try again?
Saying to people who are bringing up real and valid concerns about why society has fucked over their ability to follow their dreams ‘You could do it if you just tried harder or believed in yourself more!’ HURTS THOSE PEOPLE.
If you feel motivated to say ‘You can do it!’ but you’re not going to follow up with ‘Here are the concrete, attainable steps that will allow you to do so (Like offering them schooling, or a job that offers a living wage, or safe and reliable childcare, or transportation, or fucking SOMETHING that will help - try asking them what would help!) then YOU ARE NOT HELPING.
You are hurting others to feel a moment of warm and fuzzy inspiration.
"but feminism is not, in fact, all about choosing your choice."
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT TO ME
Schrödinger opens the box and nothing changes.
The cat lacks vital signs (no heartbeat, no breathing, no brain function): the cat is dead.
The cat exhibits continued animation (blinking, walking, nudging his hand with its little head): the cat is alive.
Schrödinger is afraid.
That has not changed, either.